Common American Customs and Etiquette to Know Before You Arrive

If you’re preparing for a trip to the United States, understanding some key customs and etiquette can make your experience smoother and more enjoyable. As someone who has navigated American culture during my J-1 visa experience, I’ve compiled a list of common practices to help you adjust and feel more at home in the U.S.

1. Greetings and Politeness

In America, greetings are generally casual but friendly. A simple “Hi,” “Hello,” or “How are you?” is a common way to start a conversation. Handshakes are the standard greeting in professional settings, while hugs are more common among close friends or family. Remember to maintain eye contact during greetings as it conveys confidence and attentiveness.

Politeness is highly valued in American culture. Words like “please,” “thank you,” “excuse me,” and “sorry” are used frequently, even in casual interactions. Don’t hesitate to use them—they’ll go a long way in making a good impression.

2. Punctuality is Key

Time management is an important aspect of American life. Being on time, whether for work, a social event, or an appointment, is seen as a sign of respect. Arriving 5-10 minutes early is often considered ideal. If you’re running late, it’s courteous to inform the person you’re meeting.

3. Tipping Culture

Tipping is an ingrained part of American culture. In restaurants, it’s customary to leave a tip of 15-20% of the bill. For services like taxis, haircuts, or hotel housekeeping, tips are also appreciated, typically ranging from $1 to $5 depending on the service.

4. Personal Space

Americans value personal space. When speaking to someone, standing about an arm’s length apart is considered appropriate. Avoid touching others unless it’s a handshake or a gesture they initiate. This respect for personal boundaries is especially important in professional settings.

5. Small Talk

Engaging in small talk is a common way to build rapport in the U.S. Topics like the weather, sports, or recent events are typical conversation starters. However, avoid sensitive subjects like politics, religion, or personal finances unless you know the person well.

6. Dining Etiquette

When dining out, wait for everyone to be served before you start eating unless the host says otherwise. It’s polite to keep your elbows off the table and chew with your mouth closed. Splitting the bill or “going Dutch” is common among friends unless someone offers to treat.

7. Workplace Culture

In the American workplace, initiative and collaboration are highly valued. Address colleagues and supervisors by their first names unless instructed otherwise. Meetings often start with a brief exchange of pleasantries before moving to the agenda. Being proactive and voicing your ideas respectfully will be appreciated.

8. Celebrations and Holidays

Americans celebrate a variety of holidays, both secular and religious. Major holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, and the Fourth of July are often spent with family and friends. If you’re invited to a celebration, bringing a small gift, such as a bottle of wine or a dessert, is a thoughtful gesture.

9. Diversity and Inclusivity

The U.S. is a melting pot of cultures, and diversity is celebrated. Be open to learning about different backgrounds and experiences. Show respect for everyone, regardless of their ethnicity, religion, or lifestyle.

10. Driving Rules

If you plan to drive in the U.S., familiarize yourself with local traffic laws. Most states drive on the right side of the road, and seatbelts are mandatory. It’s important to follow speed limits and yield to pedestrians.

Adjusting to a new culture can be challenging, but understanding these customs and etiquettes will make your transition to American life smoother. Embrace the experience, ask questions when you’re unsure, and remember that most people will appreciate your efforts to adapt. At Exchange USA, we’re here to help you navigate these cultural nuances and make your journey in the U.S. a memorable one.